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good question :: what is a “trash the dress” or “TTD” session?

Shortly after posting Shauna and Colleen’s beautiful “Trash the Dress” session yesterday, I got an email from my mom asking “What does ‘Trash The Dress’ mean?” And it is a great question! Sometimes those of us that eat, sleep and breathe weddings (and wedding imagery) forget that not everyone else does too!

So, just what is a trash the dress session anyway?

A “trash the dress” (TTD) session, sometimes referred to as a “day after” session is another chance for you and your spouse to get dolled up in your wedding day finery and to hang out with me while we make some awesome images.

Trash the dress sessions are becoming more and more popular for lots of reasons. These include:

  • wedding day timelines that don’t have a lot of time for portraits
  • ugly weather on your wedding day
  • a mad love of wedding photography (or me!)
  • a desire to relive your youth and play in the ocean or a fountain
  • or simply just wanting to try something different!

Your trash the dress session doesn’t even have to be immediately after the wedding! It could be a week, a month, a year, or even a decade later. As long as you can fit into your dress (or another dress), we can shoot!

Think it sounds neat, but don’t really want to trash your dress?

Don’t worry … we don’t have too! Usually as “trashed” as your dress is going to get is a bit dusty and/or a bit wet. Nothing that a good dry cleaning won’t fix! Just make sure not to get your dress cleaned before the TTD session, as that could get expensive!

Yesterday’s featured TTDers, Shauna and Colleen approached me about doing a trash the dress session for a couple of reasons. 1) They got married during a torrential downpour but really wanted some glowy-sunsety-light wedding portraits, and 2) as an avid photographer, Shauna thought a trash the dress session would be super fun; keeping in mind that they want to use Shauna’s dress to make quilts for their future children. I think we did a great job of meeting all their requirements. And seriously, playing in a fountain is just about the funnest thing in the world.

So, no, your “trash the dress” doesn’t need to “trash” your dress at all. But if you decide you want to roll down muddy hills, or go paintballing, or waterskiing, or hiking… I’m totally game! All it takes is an email!

family portrait combinations


I always ask my couples to provide a list of family portraits (at least two weeks in advance of their wedding). This makes the most dreaded part of the day—the family portrait time—actually kind of fun, and it helps it run super smoothly! Once I get your list, I usually spend about an hour going over it, making sure we’ve covered all the bases and coming up with, what I think, will be the most efficient shooting itinerary.

The list below is an example of a very traditional family’s family portraits. If you’ve got parents and step parents and children and siblings with spouses (or new love interests) your list will be longer, that’s ok. If you’ve got family feuds, your list will be more complicated! If you are super close with your aunts and uncles, your list will be longer. Each and every couple and family is different and your list will depend on your own family!

If you’re a little confused or overwhelmed be sure to send me an email and we can sit down and work it out together. And finally, it is super helpful for me if you enlist a member (or two) of your wedding party to help round people up and get people ready for the upcoming shots.

Family Portrait Combinations

B = Bride, G = Groom

Grandparents
B&G + B’s grandparents
B + B’s grandparents
B&G + G’s grandparents
G + G’s grandparents

Both Sides
B&G + B’s parents, G’s parents, B’s siblings, G’s siblings, B’s grandparents, G’s grandparents

Grandparents can go.

B&G + B’s parents and G’s parents

Bride’s Side
B&G + B’s mom and dad, B’s siblings
B + B’s mom and dad, B’s siblings
B + B’s mom and dad
B&G + B’s mom and dad
B + mom
B + dad
B + B’s siblings
B&G + B’s siblings
B + each sibling

B’s parents and siblings can go

Groom’s Side
B&G + G’s mom and dad, G’s siblings
G + G’s mom and dad, G’s siblings
G + G’s mom and dad
B&G + G’s mom and dad
G + mom
G + dad
G + G’s siblings
B&G + G’s siblings
G + each sibling

G’s parents and siblings can go

Couple
B&G (one shot in the same location as family portraits for album consistency)

Wedding Party
B&G and entire wedding party (one shot in the same location as family portraits for album consistency)

should we do a first look?

A first look is where you and your partner see each other and spend about about an hour taking your portraits before the wedding. I recommend a first look to every single couple. It’s such a special, personal, and romantic moment.

 

THREE REASONS FIRST LOOKS ARE AWESOME

  1. It’s the only time the two of you will get to spend alone on your wedding day. And isn’t your wedding day about the two of you?
  2. You can plan a much more guest friendly wedding day timeline. Since you will do most of your pictures before the ceremony, you and your new husband or wife will lead your guest straight to cocktails! They will love you for it.
  3. You get that fluttery feeling twice! Once during the first look, and once while walking down the aisle. This was how my best friend convinced my husband and I that we should do a first look! First look = wedding day squared.

BUT, ISN’T IT BAD LUCK?

“Stop the bus”, you might say, “Isn’t it bad luck for a couple to see one another before the wedding?” Well, that tradition dates back to the time of arranged marriages, where families were afraid that the bride or groom would run away screaming before the wedding if they had the chance to see each other (interestingly, that’s also where the tradition of the veil over the face dates from). I can’t imagine this is the kind of “bad luck” you are worried about in 2012!

PRACTICALITIES

I recommend that the first look is a private moment between the bride and the groom in the same location that we will do bridal portraits. I can help you pick the best location and coordinate the timing of the first look with my second photographer. After the first look, we do your bridal portraits for 20-30 minutes. And then we bring your bridal party in for bridal party portraits (if you are doing them) for 15-20 minutes. Once the portraits are done, we travel to the ceremony venue, where you head to different rooms, calm down a bit, and then get married! Usually, we do family portraits immediately after the ceremony.

All that being said, I understand it is your wedding day, and if after reading this you still aren’t convinced, no problem. It’s your day, and more than anything else I want it to be perfect for you! As usual, if you have any questions at all, please don’t hesitate to ask!

Take Five :: Wedding Day Timeline

Figuring out a great timeline can be one of the most stressful parts of planning your wedding day, especially if you aren’t working with a planner.I’ve been to a lot of weddings (both as a wedding photographer, a guest, and one as a bride), and have decided to share a list of things to keep in mind when planning your wedding day timeline. These are a bit photographer-centric, but I think they translate across the whole day. And remember, if you are wondering how long to allocate for anything photo related, just ask me! I’m happy to help!

One: Venues and Transportation Time


Your choice of venues will have a significant impact on your wedding day timeline. If the getting ready location is 1/2 hour from the ceremony location that is 1/2 hour from the portrait locations that is 1/2 hour from the reception venue, you’ll be spending two hours on the wedding day in transit. That eats up 20% of my most popular 10 hour package, yikes!

In addition to trying to choose ceremony and reception venues that are close to each other, think about where you are getting ready. You’ve probably set up a wedding rate at a nearby hotel. Talk to them about getting day rooms (preferably suites with big windows) for getting ready. Or, think outside the box! Does a good friend or family member live nearby?

Lastly, portrait location. When you are picking your portrait location(s), think about the style of portraits you want (funky urban architecture, nature) and where is the closest/ coolest place you can get that. Talk to me about this, I probably have some ideas for you. You need a lot less of “it” (be “it” buildings or trees or whatever) than you might think! I’ve got a post on portrait locations in the works, as well!

Two: Receiving Lines and Family Photos


If you are planning on having a receiving line, it will take longer than you think. On average, you should allocate just under 10 seconds per guest. If you’ve got lots of guests (200+), your receiving line will take 1/2 hour. An alternative is to circulate at cocktail hour or even to have a receiving line at cocktail hour. If you are going to do the latter, let your guests grab a drink before they stand in the line!

The very best time for family portraits is immediately after the ceremony. People haven’t yet had the chance to wander off (or start drinking) and the big group doesn’t need to travel. The amount of time we will need depends on how big your families are, and how many combinations we have to shoot! On average, if everyone is cooperating, family portraits usually take about 20 minutes. I recommend arranging your family portrait list months before the wedding, and making sure that each person on that list knows where to go (and when) well in advance of the wedding day!

Three: Bridal Portraits Timing


Whether you do your portraits before the wedding (a first look) or after the wedding is a personal decision, these comments will apply equally. I love first looks, and have got a separate post planned for them.

You might be surprised to learn that I only usually spend 20 minutes with my couple and 20 minutes with the bridal party. If you love love love wedding portraits (or if you want lots of pictures with your wedding party), allocate closer to an hour and a quarter. If you love photojournalism (i.e., capturing the day as it happens) or your priority is spending time with friends and family, 40 minutes is more than enough. If you don’t have a wedding party (or just have one attendant each) we’ll need less than 1/2 hour! Remember, these times are exclusive of travel time.

Four: Think About Your Guests


It is your wedding day, but you are also hosting the people who are the most important in the world to you! Guests love venues that are close together and a day that flows naturally without any breaks. The high watermark of wedding day timeline – for a guest – is: ceremony at 5:00pm, cocktails at 5:30 (while family portraits are taking place), dinner at 7:00. The only way to execute this perfectly is by doing a first look (I love them!), but your guests will think you are rock stars! Again, that’s the high watermark. But keeping your guests in mind (and remembering all those times you’ve been a guest) will help you plan an efficient timeline.

Five: First Dance / Cake Before Dinner

If you want to save some money on your photographer and don’t feel like you need professional coverage of the party or the speeches, I recommend doing your first dance and cutting your cake (if you have one) before dinner. You can save at least a couple of hours of photography – and you can save on the cost of feeding two extra people. That being said, you won’t have professional coverage of the dancing, which is a great way to finish telling the story in your album.

Also – if there are windows in your venue, the light can be amazing!

Helpful?

I hope you found this post helpful! Please let me know if you have any burning questions or ideas for future blog posts!